Dear Parents, Thank You for Making Me This Way

In response to the post "Dear Daughter, Let Miley Cyrus be a Lesson to You" which can be found here. I really enjoyed reading it!

Dear Parents,

Yes, I often thought that you were over protective. I often thought that you didn't give me enough attention. I never understood why you said no. I didn't understand why wearing bikinis wasn't okay, or why the fingertip rule was so inforced.

I used to think I wasn't good enough. I used to think I wasn't popular enough. I could never look as good as those girls in the pictures. I never had the boys following me around.

For awhile I blamed you. For awhile I hated you. Why couldn't you let me be like the other girls?

But now I know, this is how I could have (probably) ended up. With no respect for myself. I am NOT desperate. I hold myself to a higher standard than a lot of the girls around my age. I will continue doing so until I find that guy who will love ME. Not my sex appeal.

I now know the difference between a guy who calls me hot, and guy who calls me beautiful. Trying to look like the other girls is only worse in the end. I don't need to become something else to get attention. That's the wrong kind to get.

I no longer find skimpy clothes attractive. It's no longer an appealing thought to have guys fawn over me for my looks. I don't want to show my whole body to everyone. I don't want guys eyes on my breasts or on my butt.

I'm ashamed that girls who blatantly screamed for attention like this, used to be my roll model.

I don't want that anymore.

I don't want to be a possession.

And parents? You made me this way.

I love you for it,
Bethany

"Modest is Hottest" ... Or is That Just a Thought Pushed Onto Us?

There is so much controversy about modesty lately. Girls who dress modestly get laughed at (me personally) and girls who dress "immodestly" get shunned. There is a lot of slut-shaming happening lately, it isn't right, and the whole issue of modesty is one of the biggest factors in this form of bullying. "Modest is Hottest" although I agree that we shouldn't show off all of our bodies to everyone, it also isn't other people's place to tell girls to not wear what they would like to wear. Girls should not be ashamed of their bodies. God gave us boobs, curves, and butts, so why should we have to hide them? The definition of the word "Modesty" is not the same throughout the world. Some people can't show their knees, and before in America girls weren't allowed to wear pants. They showed too much of a girls shape according to society.

For me it depends on WHY you are showing off all (or most) of your body. A lot of girls dress in revealing clothes because they are insecure and feel like they need to show everything to get a guy to noticed or like them. To me that isn't okay, but if they're wearing clothes that look good, because they love their bodies... Props to them! It isn't our place to tell girls what to or not to wear. Is it a girls fault if a guy's eyes and minds wander? No, they can't be blamed for that completely. Parents should teach their sons better.

So many people make it out that a girls body is an "evil" thing. To be covered up and hidden. They aren't, they are beautiful, wonderful, and amazing things that God gave us. I personally don't want every guy looking at my boobs or legs, so I'll save that for those particular people I want to see. To each their own. Should we walk around naked? No, but it shouldn't be up to other people what we do or don't wear.

11 Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it. 

12 There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you - who are you to judge your neighbor?

- James 4:11 - 12